based in Austin, TX

Anxiety & Relationship Counseling

For individuals and couples

Life looks good. You should be fine. But things feel anything but.

You’ve spent a lot of time and energy trying to appear “perfect” on the outside…and, well, it’s worked. No one would guess that inside, you’re actually plagued by constant feelings of anxiety, uncertainty, and self-doubt.

You long to be truly seen in your relationships: accepted for your faults, secure in the connection, and receiving care as much as you give it. You’re tired of second-guessing yourself and struggling to trust.

Maybe you’re also:

Noticing a pattern of toxic or unfulfilling relationships

Struggling with people-pleasing, sacrificing yourself or your needs in order to belong

Realizing that past experiences are impacting the way you feel today

Finding it difficult to name your feelings or emotions—it all just feels like “stress” or “anxiety”

You believe that there’s more to life than this. You believe it’s possible to feel happy, fulfilled, and secure. You’re just not sure how to get there.

We’ll support you in exploring yourself and your relationships in all kinds of ways:

  • Anxiety or depression

  • People-pleasing

  • Romantic relationships

  • Family or friend relationships

  • Self-doubt and self-esteem

  • Career satisfaction

  • ADHD or Autism Spectrum Disorder

  • Early childhood experiences

  • Hyperindependence

  • Individual & couples therapy

how we can help

We’re to help you experience healing from within.

Our therapists take a nurturing and non-judgmental stance in therapy. That means this will be a truly safe space where you can explore all areas of your life: the painful ones, the confusing ones, and the ones you may never have even looked at before.

The staff at Blue Note has over 40 years of combined experience supporting clients seeking a deeper understanding and connection to themselves and those around them. With us, you’ll receive highly ethical, competent, and research-informed care every step of the way.

1

Explore

Your early experiences have a significant impact on your development, especially relationally. We’ll look at your early attachment experiences in order to identify the dynamics that are likely to be the root cause of anxiety about yourself and in your relationships.

2

Cultivate

Through gentle introspection, you’ll develop self-compassion, embracing your core self without judgment. By enhancing self-awareness, you can gain insights into your patterns of behavior and reactions within relationships, fostering personal growth and healthier emotional regulation.

3

Rewrite

We all have stories we tell ourselves, and we also have the power to change them. We’ll use evidence-based techniques to challenge and reframe negative core beliefs, replacing self-doubt & fear with self-acceptance and a positive view of yourself & your relationships.

An investment in your relationships is an investment in your life.

Frequently asked questions about anxiety & relationship counseling

FAQs

  • We do! We’re happy to support both individuals and couples in relationship therapy. We guide couples toward co-creating secure attachment bonds. Our therapists facilitate open communication, emotional vulnerability, and understanding between partners. Together, we cultivate empathy and responsiveness, building a foundation of trust and safety within the relationship.

  • Absolutely. While relationship therapy can certainly help those who are in romantic relationships, the work is often focused on the most important relationship we all have: the one with ourselves.

  • We understand. As counselors, we’re not here to push you to somewhere you don’t want to go. Our goal is to meet you right where you are today, and also to help you begin to see a future that allows you not to forget or move on, but to honor the loss you’ve experienced and live a meaningful, fulfilling life with it.

  • Anxious attachment in adult relationships often manifests in things like:

    • Fear of abandonment

    • Constant need for reassurance

    • Heightened sensitivity to perceived threats, making trust difficult

    Individuals with anxious attachment tendencies may become preoccupied with their partners' thoughts and actions, leading to a cycle of emotional highs and lows. These patterns can result in challenging communication, increased conflict, and a sense of emotional turbulence within the relationship.

  • Click this link to schedule a free consultation with us. We’ll answer your questions and you can decide if Blue Note is the right place for you on this journey. If you’re interested in working with a specific therapist on our team, you’ll have the opportunity to indicate that so you can be connected directly with them for your consultation.